Okay, so first off, I apologize for completely falling off the grid for the last few days. As most college students my age are blatantly aware, this week, or next week depending on where you go to school, is the dreaded finals week. As someone who is going through this for the first time, I must say, it’s pretty awful. I mean, I had expectations, and I had heard my fair share of horror stories from upperclassmen, but I still was not mentally or physically prepared for the week to come. And here it is, I’m halfway through my first finals week, and while it is difficult, and your body seems to be constantly screaming “FEED ME”, I’m surviving, and I’m even ahead enough that I can make this post.
Now, I’m (almost) halfway through my first year at Loyola, and while I still have a lot to learn and many experiences to still have, I’ve composed my first list of confessions that I’ve discovered. These are the list of things that I didn’t expect going into college, but that I think are applicable to the majority of college students. Enjoy, my lovelies, and breathe, you can make it through.
1. Tests in college classes are comparable to finals and mid-terms in high school.
Remember when you used to panic at the thought of finals and mid-terms in 10th grade? Yeah, that happens almost every time you have a test. It wouldn’t be so bad if they weren’t worth 20% of your grade. That late night study session for your high school final? It will happen for all of your tests. And if that is what tests are like in college, just imagine the finals.
2. Netflix becomes one of your best friends.
I loved Netflix in high school. I thought it was useful and would sometimes binge watch something over a weekend. In college, binge watching an entire T.V. show becomes your stress relief. Remember my post, 9 Ways to De-Stress before Finals? If you don’t feel up to some of those, just curl up in your bed and watch a few episodes of Parks and Rec. You’ll feel better after, I promise. Even better, no one judges your relationship with Netflix because if someone isn’t on the same level, they wish they were.
3. It’s harder to keep in touch with friends from high school than you can imagine.
Yes, we all have friends either still in high school or spread out amongst college campuses across the U.S., and while we leave each other promising to stay in touch, it’s difficult to do. This doesn’t mean you aren’t friends anymore, but life gets busy. A weekly FaceTime call will eventually become difficult to schedule and texts will go without a response because you forgot about it. It isn’t just one sided either, one of my best friends at MSU has a busy life too and it has just become an unspoken agreement that sometimes calls just won’t work out. Stuff falls through, but when you are all home for breaks, everything falls back into place like no time has passed. If you want to keep in touch with your besties, work hard. It’ll be difficult, but it is possible.
4. Mental and physical breakdowns will happen.
Yeah, they will be a thing. I promise. Whether it is because you have too much to do, you ruin your favorite shirt in the washer, or you just miss your dog, you will have one at some point in your college career. Accept it and move on. No one will judge you for it, and in fact, if you make good friends, they will be there with hugs and junk food to get you through. Just remember that friends in college are your family away from home, so use them for support and be there to support them when they need you during their breakdowns. No shame.
5. Staying in can be just as fun as a night out.
“College is an experience” is one of the most common phrases I’ve heard from those who have gone through it already. Yes, it is. And while going out is fun, especially if you are in a city, staying in with friends can create some unforgettable memories as well. I have weekly movie nights with some of my friends, and they have caused some of the best laughing fits yet. Even in the painful week before finals, staying up late with some of my floor mates have led to so many crazy shenanigans and laughs that I’ll remember more than the party that happened three weeks ago. So if you don’t feel like going out on a Friday and just want to eat cookie dough while watching a romantic comedy, do it.
While I can’t say I expected all of these things in college, I can tell you this; it’s absolutely amazing. It’s worth the wait. Make it through high school, pick a college that fits you and you’ll have a blast.