This is a topic that I have been working on for a long time. Well, I guess working on is the wrong term. I’ve been receiving advice my entire life, like all of you, whether wanted or not. This is the list of the best advice I’ve ever been given in my life thus far, and the rules that I try to live by everyday.
Now, I must credit a lot of these to a couple people and the majority of them happened in the past year. Not only did a lot of events happen in the past year, but I also became weirdly aware that the way I live my life was extremely significant. I attribute part of this to me legally becoming an adult and my brain feeling like it needed to change somewhat in order for me to turn 18. Plus, there was that thing called college. That happened.
All of the people who told me these pieces of advice are absolutely amazing human beings that consist of my family, my best friends, and my favorite teacher ever. Ever.
Let’s do this.
Sometimes life is rough, but it will get better.
Always. There is always something to look forward to. You can do it, just hang in there.
You will always be okay.
You may not be great, you may not be happy, but you will be okay.
Sometimes what is best for everyone else isn’t what is best for me.
Make decisions based on what you need or what your gut tells you to do. If you have to take time for yourself, do it. If you aren’t talking about something because you are afraid of it, and yet doing this is causing you stress, let it out. Be smart about it, but find someone you can confide in. And in continuation of this one…
I need to put myself first… sometimes.
I like to do anything and everything for the people I care about. Sometimes I just forget to focus on what I need as well.
Everyone doesn’t show love like you do, but that doesn’t mean they don’t care.
I get disappointed when people don’t express that they care in the same ways that I do. I have to remember that this doesn’t mean they don’t care, we are just different people and we don’t express feelings in the same way.
Some friends are meant to stay and some to leave, but no matter what, the good memories can’t and shouldn’t be forgotten.
Friends come and go, but that doesn’t mean the fun times you had together weren’t great or a strong point in your relationship. Maybe you aren’t the closest anymore, but looking back in the future will make you smile.
Sometimes you have to be the bigger person.
If it isn’t worth fighting about and you can move on without it hindering a relationship, just move on. It’ll be okay.
You don’t always have to be the strong one.
You are allowed to break down sometimes. You are only human.
Eating is important.
Even if you are upset or sick, always make sure you eat. If you get really upset, sometimes you just won’t feel hungry, but that isn’t an excuse to not eat.
You can do whatever you set your mind to.
This is one that sounds completely cliché, but it is applicable. I’ve been told that I wouldn’t be able to pull off some of my projects and films, but I worked hard and succeeded in the end. Don’t let someone’s doubt crush your spirit. You can do it.
You are talented and unique.
Everyone has different skills and strengths. Yes, maybe you can’t draw human faces, but maybe you can do a flip with a snowboard. Something makes you special and talented, use it to your advantage.
It’s okay to cry.
I, like many others, like to hide when I’m upset from others as much as possible. Just remember that it’s okay to cry sometimes, or even let one of your friends see you upset. They just want to help.
You have a support system and you need to use it.
Bottling things up is not a coping mechanism. It will backfire. Let the people who care most about you know what is going on with you. It will help ease your worries.
Take your walls down sometimes and let yourself be vulnerable.
Allow yourself to fully connect with people instead of just getting to know them on the surface. Now, I’m not saying to release “all your crazy at once” so to say, but once you know someone well enough, get to know what makes each other tick, what makes them sad, what they dream and hope for.
Truthfully, I’m still probably missing a lot from that list but these are the ones that came to my head the fastest. Just remember to be you. You are amazing and so many people love you. It’s okay to be weak or strong, just give yourself a break when times get hard. You’re only human. We all have ups and downs but we have an unbreakable spirit too. The fibers that make us up as people are a lot stronger than we think, so push through. I promise you can do it.