If someone wants to leave your life, you’ve got to let them go. Now, I’m not saying to just shut people out or decide a friendship isn’t worth fighting for anymore, but if someone genuinely wants to leave your life, there is nothing you can do to stop them. If you feel like you need to convince them to stay, chances are that 1. they will leave anyway and 2. that they aren’t someone you want to stick around.
Now, this might sound super negative for a bit, but hang in there with me, I promise I have a point.
We spend our whole lives building relationships to watch them fall apart in the future. These relationships end in a moment of disappointment or pain, people leaving quickly and carelessly-just like the entered. Even if it becomes a mutual understanding that you shouldn’t be a part of each others’ lives anymore, it still stings. We all wish at some point that it would have worked out.
Is it better to put up your walls and feel nothing at all than to make yourself vulnerable? Is it better to be without love in order to save ourselves from the hurt? When someone enters our lives, we attach ourselves to them, hoping their beautiful soul will stick around. We hope that they will stick around at our best and worst. We show them our true colors and hope the loves us the same.
But what happens when they don’t? What happens when they realize you’ve changed from the person you were and they don’t want to be affiliated with you anymore? There is no such thing as perfection. Sometimes our standards are too high. Sometimes we were just too blinded by their greatness to notice the flaws. We didn’t notice we built a leaning tower on a cracking foundation.
So we move on, we keep living, and one day the tower falls. Or even worse, we see it falling before it does. We try to convince others of our worth and in turn, this proves our relationship isn’t worth it. I’ve always believed that people come into your life for a reason. They come when you need them. But, how could someone who is so attached to you change their mind so quickly? Others minds are changing just as fast as ours and although we try to understand them fully, we never will.
You can’t miss someone who doesn’t want to miss you. Well, I mean, you can. But it will just hurt and you just have to give it time to heal. You can’t love someone who doesn’t want to be loved by you. You can’t force someone to stay. You’ve got to let them go.
But in turn, you’ll be okay. It will hurt, it’ll be confusing, you won’t know what to do. You won’t know who to tell your triumphs and errors to. But you will find someone new. You’ll need someone and so someone will be sent to be a part of your life.
Just surround yourself with people who love you. While you can’t guarantee they will stay forever, at least you will have them for a while. Love immensely. Find people who love you so much that they will never leave you in their lifetime. Surround yourself with people who make your life brighter when they are a part of it so you never lose the sunshine for too long. You will be okay. The world is constantly changing just like us and our relationships. No matter how bleak something seems, it will get better. Just wait for the rubble to settle. I promise, you will be okay. You can do this.