I’m an emotional person. I love with my whole heart and care more than I should. Some people think it’s bad to be emotional, but I don’t agree.
Now, I don’t mean that it’s okay to go around yelling at everyone because you are angry, or cry all day because you are sad. I mean, it’s okay to show your emotions and feel them, rather than stuff them into tiny drawers in the back of your mind until they explode.
Which believe me, that’s messy and WAY worse than if you had just felt them at first.
In college it’s easy to push down emotions because you have a test the next day, or haven’t finished a paper. Heck, in your first year tons of kids pretend like they aren’t homesick and then the dining hall not having ice cream that day pushes them over the edge.
So here is why it is okay to be emotional, and why I think you should let yourself feel your emotions rather than brushing them aside.
1. When you are emotional, you know where you stand.
You know what you need. Like for me, if I’m sad or frustrated, I know what I can do to fix that-cook, take photos, or go run at the gym. If you push aside your feelings, you don’t do things to make you feel better and you continue to feel off. Knowing your emotional and mental limits is SO IMPORTANT, and it’s something that being emotional gives you as an advantage.
2. When you are emotional, you won’t explode one day.
Like I said, the dining hall not having ice cream might push you over the ledge someday. People bottle up feelings and explode all the time, but if you are emotional in your everyday life, there’s a good chance that won’t happen.
3. Making friends? No problem.
Being emotional helps you be empathetic to others when they are going through a rough time. This is a great skill when you are with a whole bunch of new people in college and someone is upset about something. Just being a shoulder to cry on will help you to connect with those around you.
4. Others emotions don’t make you feel weird.
Your significant other is crying? An emotional person can give them a hug and talk things through with them without feeling awkward. Major bonus points.
5. You get stuff done!
By letting your emotions show, you learn so much about the real world! You don’t get stuck on the first page of a paper because you are still trying to push down something that bothered you this morning. More importantly, you know how to talk to others, problem solve, and connect with them which makes group activities more productive and efficient.
6. You love often.
This is my favorite part about being an emotional being. Yes, loving means that sometimes you aren’t loved back. But when you are, it’s one of the best feelings in the world. You don’t play games when you just start dating, you don’t have to act “uninterested” to get them to ask you out. You just love. You wear it proudly and that’s something that we need more of in this world.
Love each other, guys.