Happiness is a tricky subject. It’s a feeling that is the same for everyone, but we all have a very different definition of what makes us happy. I’ve been talking a lot about self care lately, and how to take care of yourself when you get too stressed, but I haven’t talked about finding your happiness.
What does it mean to you? Does it mean being successful? Does it mean having everything you want? Is it being around the people you love?
No matter what you define as happiness, we all run into points in our lives where happiness is harder to come by. You lose a job, have a bad day, or lose someone you love.
Life is not a happiness granting machine. Things in life get tough, money gets tight, relationships go off course, and everything piles up into a downward spiral.
It seems like a lot of people lately have been losing sight of their happiness. I know I did for a split second.
So in case you are in a similar boat, here’s what I do. I think of everything that makes me happy, and put it in a list. I decorate it so it isn’t awful to look at, and put it up somewhere I will see it frequently.
I know I’m not going to be happy all the time-that’s just not how life works. We all go through particularly rough patches. Doing this just helps to make my day a little better in the morning when I see the things that make me happy next to my mirror.
My happiness is Dani. It’s running. It’s creating. It’s taking photos and writing. And it’s being with people who make me happy. Those are my passions. Those are what I work towards everyday. They make me truly happy, so I make sure I have one of them in my life everyday.
So what does happiness mean to you? It’s okay if you are still on the search, or still adding to your list. I still find things that make me happy everyday-but a lot of them are things that wouldn’t be good to having in my life everyday. Cookies. Ice cream. Naps.
If you find something that makes you smile all the time, add it to your list. (Yes, this can include significant others:) But as long as these things make you happy, don’t lose them. It’s easy to lose sight of our happiness when we are stretching to reach another goal, but in the end you’ll miss out.
Happiness is hard. As a kid, happiness is easy to find, but it gets harder as we grow up. I for one will never stop trying to define my happiness, and you shouldn’t either.